Blog #429: Knowing My Limits As A Neurodivergent

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If you have been following me for a while now, you know that I am someone who feels like I need to do everything for the sake of “Going the Distance.” This ultimately would sometimes lead to burnouts and meltdowns because I feel like everything that needs to get done, should get done.

But because of my neurodivergent nature, I have been at times unable to display the fact that I need to step back and say to myself that I need to realize my limits.

That is, of course, as of recent when if you have visited my event albums page, you will see that I had a button for an album of Boca School for Autism’s Family Fun Night on April 11th where it would be watching a Florida Panthers hockey game. The Sunday before I was supposed to come down, I suddenly began to get a feeling that maybe this wasn’t going to be the right fit. I mean, what was I going to get from going to a hockey game? It would be noisy and overstimulating and not in the environment that I would normally find myself in.

Now, as you also know, I don’t like to make any cancellations or rescheduling’s unless it’s needed. However, from what I was hearing in terms of getting transportation to being up late at night, it just wasn’t worth it.

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Keep in mind also that there has been a lot going on in my life as of late considering that I have been getting to know a life coach/personal advocate from one of the organizations in Massachusetts as well as waiting to hear back about a possible job opportunity for the past two weeks. Not to mention that my primary care doctor is retiring, and I wanted to make my final appointment with him a good one as well as having done two trips up to the Boston metro area for Flutie related events.

So, you can see where I am coming from?

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But this is not the first time where I have started to realize my limits. As I had transitioned from attending Brony Conventions to learn my profession as a public speaker, I knew that not everyone is going to like what I have to offer and after 2021, I decided to walk away from Brony and Fan Conventions for good.

There is a lot of money, sweat and tears that go into making these events possible on my part and I knew that if I wasn’t going to be paid for speaking at them, then what good was it?

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Finally, I feel that knowing my limits has sort of helped me become a better individual and much better business owner. I’ve also started embracing doing more virtual and local speaking events/trainings as well as national ones that fit with what I have to offer. It’s not easy, but sometimes it is necessitated not just for today, but for tomorrow too.

There may be something that you may need to trust your instincts for in terms of knowing your limits. If you feel like you know your limits, by all means, say it even though you don’t really want to. Don’t do something that is going to bring you down at the end because it just isn’t worth it.

Take it from me, knowing your limits may be the best thing that you can do in your life!!

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Catch you all later!!

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